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If you would like to practise with meditation, I acquired these pointers from other people, maybe they'll be of some use to you as well:

Focus on your breaths, try to do abdominal breathing. I learned this by laying on my back and trying to move the hand someone put on my lower stomach up and down by only taking deep breaths. Breathe by expanding your abdomen, use the lowest muscles you can move there to achieve this. Relax your shoulders and try to keep your chest completely still.

It's okay if you can't completely empty your mind. Pay no attention to your thoughts, just let them go without focusing on them if they appear. Concentrate on what you're doing.

Relax your fingers and your toes, try to keep your head still. Do not force this, you can move slightly if you're uncomfortable. Take a few breaths. Relax your hands and feet. Feel how warm they are. Next, slightly tense the muscles in your legs, and let this tension go after a moment. Repeat this with your arms. Focus for a moment on your face. Smile slightly, or frown. After that, let that expression slide of your face. Check your shoulders. Are they still relaxed? Breathe slowly in for a few seconds until your lungs are completely full, hold your breath for about the same time, and breathe out. Do this by simply relaxing your torso so that the air slowly leaves your body.

Focus on the sounds inside your body, the beating of your heart, the rush of air in your lungs. Listen for a while to these sounds. After that, listen to the sounds you produce, the slight rustling of your clothes, your breath when it is leaving your body. Then listen to the sounds in the room. The ticking of a clock, the sounds a pet, or a friend makes by simply being there in the same space as you. Take your time to try to find the rythm in these sounds. Shift your focus to the outside of the room you're in. Are there birds? Is there a rustling tree?

If you're able to distinguish sounds you're making yourself, try to adjust them to the other sounds you're listening to. Become a part of it.

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The good lord woman, I'm not going to read/do all of that version:

Breathe in slowly through your nose for a few seconds, hold your breath, and breathe out through your mouth. I think the 4-7-8 seconds version should be the most relaxing. Count the seconds. Focus on that.

Be aware of your body, try to relax the tense muscles. The only muscles you should feel are the ones you use for breathing.

This is also suitable to do when you're feeling stressed or if you're trying to fall asleep.

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Last but not least, please start slowly with this. Build it up.

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For a culture that has always prided itself on being the most 'down-to-earth' it is surprising how many people here are interested in meditation. After all, most seem to believe it is on par with astrology and 'healing stones'.

Firstly, my French teacher. She told to me how to empty my mind, how to stop paying attention to my thoughts and just 'be'. Secondly, my theatre teacher, who taught me how to use my breathing as a way to relax mentally and physically.

And lastly, the two sweaty, coarsely built kendoka who explained why I should stop and just *listen* every now and then while I was nursing a bleeding blister at the bottom of my little finger and drinking warm sake from a delicate little cup.

But it might just be me. I could very well be the one who gravitates towards this subject or the people who talk about it.

I can remember how I as a little girl played with the rice my mother kept in a large bucket. I submerged my hands, skooped the rice up in my hands and focused on the feeling of the rice pouring down from between my fingers. Again and again, until my mother told me to go play outside. There was also a teacher who told the class I was in to "only draw what you see, don't draw what you think you know". I can't remember his face, but I can still hear the tone of his voice when he told us this.

Whenever I feel overwhelmed nowadays I tend to shut myself down to a meditative state. It got easy. I've sat with people in a room without even realising I started meditating.

Usually it's pleasant, but there are moments when you should take care. I can feel detached when I meditate for too long, or if I do it too often. Most people approach it too candidly in my opinion. The positive absolutely outweight the negative here, but if you don't build this up gradually there is a chance you can get emotional or depressed. After all, you open yourself up to your own feelings, while taking away your defenses. Take care if you have some unresolved issues.

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